Today's practice · 4 min
Stop rehearsing the argument
Rehearsal feels like preparation. Past the second run it is mostly practice at being angry.
BeginPick what is true right now. Each one opens a short practice — a few minutes, nothing to sign up for.
Today's practice · 4 min
Rehearsal feels like preparation. Past the second run it is mostly practice at being angry.
BeginA few days at a time. Stop whenever you like — nothing is counted or scored.
A week of paying closer attention to what is already holding your life up. A few minutes a day, nothing to keep up with.
Five days of putting a problem back to its real size. Useful when one thing has taken over everything.
Four days of practising one change in real conversations: understanding fully before responding.
Noticing what is already good, instead of waiting for conditions to be perfect.
Seeing today at its real size, not the size worry makes it.
Acting before you feel ready, and letting the feeling catch up.
Getting through difficult stretches without pretending they are easy.
Paying attention to the ordinary things that hold your life up.
Finding meaning in what you do rather than waiting to be assigned it.
Repair, honesty and attention — the parts that do the real work.
Being steady, present and willing to repair when you get it wrong.
Listening long enough to understand before deciding what to say.
Making the useful thing small enough that you actually do it.