What to do after losing your temper with your child

Come back when you are calm, name what happened plainly, and make clear it was not their fault that you shouted.

Children learn more from watching a repair than from a parent who never slips.

An unrepaired moment teaches a child that ruptures stay open. A repaired one teaches that relationships survive hard moments.

• —Wait until your voice is steady.
• —Say what you did, not what they did.
• —Say what you will try next time, and keep it small.